Dear Abby: Can I rebuild a relationship with my siblings after a lifetime of abuse?
New York Post
Last updated: May 11, 2026
The author, the youngest of five siblings, describes a childhood marked by a strained relationship with their mother. The only positive familial connection was with their sister, Sara, with whom they shared similar negative experiences. The mother's favoritism and criticism deeply impacted the author's self-esteem.
- The author recounts how their mother consistently favored their brothers, subjecting the author and Sara to constant criticism. This preferential treatment led to the author feeling unloved and inadequate. Even into adulthood, the mother's critical nature persisted, affecting the author's relationships and personal life. The author highlights specific instances of favoritism and emotional neglect. The sister, Sara, also experienced similar treatment and developed coping mechanisms. The author expresses a desire for reconciliation but acknowledges the deep-seated issues.
