Dear Abby: Should I be concerned that my fiancé’s best friend is a serial cheater?
New York Post
Last updated: May 12, 2026
The author is happily engaged but faces a challenge with her fiancé's best friend, Joey. Joey is described as wonderful to the fiancé and has a long-standing friendship with him. However, Joey's interactions with the author have been consistently disrespectful and condescending, creating a growing tension.
- The author's fiancé, aware of the friendship's importance, has dismissed her concerns, believing Joey's behavior is harmless and part of their dynamic. The fiancé's mother also downplays the issue, attributing Joey's rudeness to his personality rather than malice.
- The author feels unheard and believes her fiancé is not taking her feelings seriously. She is seeking advice on how to address Joey's behavior and her fiancé's lack of support without jeopardizing the engagement or the friendship.
- She has tried to communicate with Joey directly but has been met with further disrespect. The core issue is the fiancé's inability to acknowledge the hurtful nature of Joey's actions and his prioritization of the friendship over his fiancée's comfort and emotional well-being.
